Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough?
Do you lack confidence in yourself and your abilities?
If so, don’t worry – you’re not alone.
A lot of people feel this way, especially when it comes to their professional lives.
It can be hard to feel confident when you’re up against competition, but there are a few things that you can do to make yourself appear more confident than you actually are.
In this blog post, we will discuss how to fake confidence and appear more self-assured than you really are!
How to Fake Confidence
One of the most important things that you can do when faking confidence is to keep your head up and make eye contact.
This may seem like a small thing, but it makes a big difference.
When you keep your head up and make eye contact with the person that you’re talking to, it shows that you’re confident in what you’re saying.
It also makes you seem more approachable and trustworthy.
Another thing that you can do to appear more confident is to speak slowly and clearly.
This shows that you’re in control of the situation and that you’re not nervous or unsure of yourself.
People who speak quickly often come across as anxious or unprepared, so take your time when you’re speaking.
Finally, try to relax and take deep breaths.
This will help to calm your nerves and make you feel more relaxed.
When you’re feeling calm and collected, it will be easier for you to come across as confident.
So why should you “fake it ’til you make it?”
While it might seem phony or even untruthful, the Association for Psychological Science agrees that faking confidence is actually a really good strategy.
So, here are three reasons why you should appear more confident than you actually are and fake confidence until you actually feel it for real!
- You will experience and feel greater satisfaction in your life.
- You will be able to cope better when things don’t end up going the way that you want.
- You will be able to fulfill your responsibilities more fully.
Let’s go into these three reasons more in-depth.
You will experience and feel greater satisfaction in your life.
One of the worst things that low self confidence does to you is that it makes it impossible for you to really be satisfied with anything in your life, and with anything that you do or try to do.
With low self confidence, no matter what you are doing, you feel like it’s a failure.
You end up being a failure as a parent, a failure as a significant other or a spouse, a failure as an employee.
You inevitably end up not being able to take care of all of your responsibilities, and you are ending up ruining everybody else’s life.
Of course, none of this is actually true.
But this is how you see your life as being.
No matter how well you are actually doing at your job, or how well you’re doing as a parent, or how caring you are as a spouse, you can’t be happy with it.
You only see yourself as screwing things up.
Having higher confidence won’t change your situations, necessarily, but it will help you feel more satisfaction in your life.
One of the things that greater confidence does it that it actually helps us see ourselves more realistically, which means that we can see all of our successes and our potential, instead of all of our weaknesses and failures.
Having greater confidence means that you end up being able to be more satisfied with how you are living your life.
Instead of always seeing the downside of things, you’ll be able to see the upside, and be more positive about changing what needs to be changed.
You will be able to cope better when things don’t end up going the way that you want.
One of the hardest things about having low confidence in yourself is that everything that doesn’t work out ends up being a failure, and your fault. This, of course, is just in your mind, but it’s how you feel.
If you have higher confidence in yourself, then you are better able to see why things don’t go the way that you want.
You are able to see when things don’t work out because of forces outside of your control. You are also able to see where you might have made a mistake, without beating yourself over it.
Greater confidence in yourself also will enable you to adapt to the new situation more readily.
Low self confidence means that you end up obsessing over things that don’t work out, and end up being paralyzed about them.
Greater self confidence will help you pick yourself up, assess the situation, and come up with a game plan, without feeling destroyed by the entire situation.
You will be able to fulfill your responsibilities more fully.
If you have greater confidence in yourself, you have greater confidence in your abilities.
Instead of spending all that energy feeling like you’re a failure, and coping with the fact that you’re a failure, you can spend your energy and time working on what you want to improve on.
Instead of feeling down, you can go out and play with your kids.
Or you can go spend time with other people. Or you can channel all that energy into doing better at work.
This will improve your confidence even more.
How to Fake Confidence and Appear More Confident Than You Are
So there you have it – a few tips on how to fake confidence and appear more confidence until you get there on your own!
Looking for some more ways to build your confidence?
Check out these posts:
- How to Love Yourself and Be Confident
- How to Be Brave and Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
- 11 Affirmations for Confidence to Help You Believe in Yourself
- Confidence Building Exercises to Boost Your Self-Esteem
and our quick course on confidence!
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